Thursday, March 12, 2009

Am I A One-Upper?

I read an advice column today with a question concerning what to do with a friend who likes to one-up. I started thinking that I might sometimes come across that way, especially on blogs. In my comments on friends' blogs I tend to share similar experiences I've had or my children have had. My intention is not to distract from any of your experiences, but rather to connect through our similarities. I truly enjoy hearing (reading) your thoughts and shared experiences in comments to my posts, and that is what I try to do when I comment. I feel more a part of your lives when you share them with me in the blogosphere. So I hope you know I'm not playing a comparison game, and I'd really appreciate any of your stories that relate to my life too.

4 comments:

Charlotte said...

I agree. I like the comments that relate similar experiences. I think they are much more bonding than a short, "how cute." I'm pretty sure a one-upper always makes their stories seem happier, scarier, more sad, more exciting than the original story, not "I know exactly what you mean!"

Alena said...

I do the same thing and often worry that I might come across that way too.

Debra said...

I never think you do that. In fact, I think that the majority of those that participate in the blogging community (which is everyone now, right?) comment in the effort to create connections rather than to one-up. Though there are those few others . . .
: )

Min said...

Oh yeah?! I can one-up better than you can.